The Nagging Questions of Chronic Illness

It sometimes feels silly when I receive an invitation for an event happening more than a year in the future. This is because the details of my everyday life can be so overwhelming it’s all I can do to focus on the here and now. Maybe I’ll focus on next week, if I have the mental capacity for it.

Chronic illness patients know the importance of taking one step at a time. But paradoxically, we also need to be prepared for dangers and setbacks that could happen without warning. It’s an uncomfortable push and pull that addles our brains and overwhelms our nervous systems, and we experience it almost daily.

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I remember the famous biblical words from the Sermon on the Mount: “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” (Matthew 6:34). Different translations of this verse include the word “anxious,” or even substitute “evil” for “trouble.” Regardless of how it’s interpreted, the concept of “What if?” is clearly as old as human nature.

In the modern era, where life moves more quickly and we are constantly plugged in and distracted, it’s easier to feel the pressures of time, work obligations, and connection to our families and communities. I prefer to bite off chunks of responsibilities in smaller segments, because I simply don’t know what challenges might lie around the corner. If I can chew smaller bits, it makes life seem less overwhelming.

The feeling of anxiety in my chest — the tightness, the loss of appetite, and the shortness of breath — is sometimes more severe for someone with medical concerns. The fear of the unknown goes hand in hand with any illness, including mine, granulomatosis with polyangiitis.

So, we find ourselves living on the edge of a delicate balance. One part wants to be cautious and make wise decisions for our future, in case our health takes a negative turn. The other part says, “C’est la vie. You already suffered enough. Go out there and live a little.”

The ‘what ifs’

Some of the questions swirling around my head are nearly omnipresent, and after many years, I’m still learning to face them in a balanced way. These include:

What if my disease relapses?

When I was treated with rituximab in 2013, it was a six-hour procedure. I sat in an outpatient lab chair with a needle in my arm, reading books and generally trying to keep myself entertained and distracted. It was irritating and time-consuming, and the next day, I didn’t feel well at all. But it catapulted me into remission, where I am grateful to remain today.

That’s where I am for the time being, but there’s no guarantee it will stay that way forever. Living in remission feels the same as enjoying a nice day but not knowing when the sky will turn dark and threatening. The unknown is that foreboding rain cloud that blocks the sunlight from view.

What if I can’t keep up?

Some days, even normal life seems oppressive. Fatigue is real. I don’t worry about this on any given Tuesday, because I’ve developed the coping mechanisms to support myself. But the concern remains: If there’s an important event in the future and I need to be on top of my game, will I be able to handle it?

What if I go broke trying to stay healthy?

So much of chronic illness is tied to finances. Remember that rituximab procedure I described earlier? It cost nearly $60,000. Fortunately, I had great insurance at the time.

For the majority of people who aren’t wealthy, a hefty price tag is attached to diagnoses and treatment plans. These problems pile higher when we don’t have good insurance or require a hospital stay.

Every visit to a specialist, every trip to the pharmacy, every lab test, the dollar signs float above me in the air like ghosts, evaporating my income. Cha-ching!

What if I lose friends or become distant with family?

People are such an interconnected part of our illness trajectory that it’s hard to imagine going it alone. But circumstances change. Friends come and go. Family, though more difficult to cut ties with, aren’t guaranteed to be supportive forever.

That’s partly why I build a strong foundation of self-reliance. I’ll always need community, but in the times the foundation seems to crumble, I’ve still got inner strength and personal fortitude.

The ultimate decision

In a life of uncertainty, we have two options: worry or remain balanced and optimistic. And that’s not always a voluntary choice.

Today, I choose to be positive and enjoy life. Tomorrow will worry about itself. And as for those events taking place in 2023, I’ll be happy to decide whether I can attend when the time comes.

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